There is a theory that clergy should move every 5 or 6 years to avoid getting "too close" to the people in the congregation. IMO this is hogwash. What does "too close" mean anyway?
Is it harder to keep some sort of clinical detachment when grieving with the congregation? YEs. Suck it up and deal with it. But one of the blessings of ministry is to share the lives of the people with whom one lives and works and ministers. OBviously there is always the need to have some professional distance and so on. But it is a blessing to grieve with them and to laugh with them (I note that people rarely worry about the "too close" thing when it comes to sharing the joys of life, just about the supposed problem of loving the people whom you are burying).
I was reminded of this yesterday while doing the funeral of a charter member of the congregation. It is one of the few times when looking down at the family I had to pull myself together as the service started. But it is a blessing. Not a hardship. Not a problem. A blessing. TBTG. Amen